Transformation: the how

A description of the transformational life may seem a little lofty for most of us, but it’s so accessible.  Pursuing transformation may be as simple as reordering a couple of tasks in our day so we have space for a mindfulness practice, verbally processing our life with a spiritual director, or taking a few minutes everyday to make a list of everything we’re grateful for. 

Like most things in life, in order to fully engage, we must be open and willing… pursuing a transformational life is no different.  When we are open and willing to experiencing the joy and pain of change, we’re more available to the change within.  We’ll most likely see a more dramatic impact on our days, behaviors, and lives if we’re open to the process.  Part of being open and willing is allowing oneself to sink in.  We use this phrase in our one-on-one and group sessions A LOT.  What does it look like for you to sink into who you are and your relationship with God or your higher power/faith system?  Being open and willing is the precursor to receiving the beautiful gift of transformation in ourselves and our lives.  

As humans, we’re a little shortsighted and amnesiac—let’s just admit that right out of the gate.  We don’t sink easily, we tend to have short attention spans, and probably fail more times than we succeed at being fully present.  There’s hope!  There are small exercises and practices that dramatically alter those human tendencies when we make them a part of our life rhythm.  A life rhythm of practices and disciplines awaken us to grow in self-awareness, other-awareness, and God-awareness; which encourages growth in our interior world, our relationship with God, and our relationships with others.  Here’s a list of some of those practices/disciplines that help us grow in this way:

  • Noticing
  • Mindfulness
  • Examen
  • Silence/Solitude
  • Meditation
  • Gratitude
  • Creative processes

If we’re talking Christian practices:

  • Prayer
  • Scripture Reading

Relationship with another is so key to pursuing transformation.  The phrase originally coined in John Donne’s meditation, (later picked up and developed by Thomas Merton, and even later put to a lovely, meditative tune by Ben Howard), “No Man is an Island” is honest to goodness truth.   We are all connected to one another in one way or another— no one is entirely isolated.  And thank God for that!  We process and refine through the art and gift of relationship.

  • Cluing in close friends and SO’s
  • Spiritual Directors
  • Counselors
  • Life Coaches

Pursuing the transformative life is within reach.  There are ample tools and techniques to building a rhythm of pursuing transformation.

Want to know more?  Want to go deeper or experience one-one-one or group spiritual direction? Get in touch!